As a former forensic Psychologist who worked on some very difficult custody cases, I can assure you there is a difference between love at a conscious and emotionally mature level and what you see in your cases. It’s energetic — of one party is in his toxic masculinity, then thebother party will be in their toxic femininity. It’s why empowering women is important. But I do think it is dangerous to the soul of an empath or highly sensitive person not to distinguish between the two for educational purposes. I have found that learning the difference is often part of a spiritual journey for those women who are able to finally leave. Love is really all that exists but what you describe is anything but love. Additionally, all those fairytales were rewritten in the 1800s and often do not reflect the lessons from thousands of years ago. Cinderella was a story of a rebalancing of power in Egyptian times. We are in a time of transformation and the one thing I am certain we need to get to the other side is unconditional love- even for those souls that do the most horrible things to other people. Fearing them is not helpful, nor is tying fear to the emotion of love.